Dating Apps: The Good, The Decent, The Loss of Faith in Humanity

Hi guys! Today I’m going to be discussing the plethora of options you have when it comes to dating applications. I’ll share my own personal experience using them and what I think is worth a try or not. Do note that I have deleted and re-downloaded almost all of them multiple times over the course of my life out of frustration. Bodes well, doesn’t it?

The reality as I’ve discussed in a previous post is that it’s simply not easy to meet other singles in real life anymore. Everyone is addicted to technology and instant gratification, so no one’s looking around to organically lock eyes with Michael Fassbender, except for me.

Also, many of these applications are integrated with your Facebook profile. With all of the scandal surrounding Facebook and user privacy, I wonder what that will mean for some of these apps in the future…


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This is the Mac Daddy of swipe culture! You basically swipe right on a picture of someone if it’s a yes, and left if it’s a no. Very shallow and completely based on looks, but you know what? That’s not necessarily a bad thing. If you don’t find someone at all attractive, it’s probably not worth pursuing, unless said person is a billionaire (sadly, there’s no financial information readily available on Tinder). I will say that for a while, Tinder became more of a hookup than a dating app. Some may argue it still is. I have had varying success through it. I think it’s a bit more cut to the chase in terms of meeting people because you don’t have a lot of space to write about yourself. I think it’s worth trying if you’re clear about what you’re looking for and aren’t offended if someone is looking for something more casual or serious than you are.


-8.jpgBumble is essentially the counterpart to Tinder, except that the lady has to initiate the conversation. For same-sex couples, either one can. This Sadie Hawkins style is an interesting theory that mirrors the heavy female empowerment movement in our society. that I am loving. That said, I have found that though I would get a lot of matches half of them never respond! No offense to men, but sometimes I think they forget they even have a phone. It’s not like I’m sending anything bizarre; just a casual, “will you please marry me?” I honestly can’t remember meeting anyone from this app. So ladies out there, just know you may not get traction. Men, please respond to your matches.


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Hinge gives you matches that you have mutual friends on Facebook with so I’m not sure what this will mean in the future with the Facebook drama. It’s a really nice idea though. Having a “second degree” connection is better than a random stranger. Yet again, though, I’ve found very little traction in terms of conversation, let alone actually meeting anyone.


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I’ll be honest, the format of this one is kind of weird and confusing. You do swipe, but you can buy the ability to match or like more singles with “coffee beans”. Honestly, I’m not trying to spend a lot of time on these things, and the whole coffee shop is a little too extra. I met someone once through this app so there’s that. I think the quality is mixed. Worth a try though!


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How about OkStupid? Just kidding. Kind of. What makes this one a little different is answering a very large number of questions, which I’ll admit, are pretty interesting. The idea is that you are more than just your pictures. That being said, I was inundated by messages right away, but most were unanswered by me, because they were written poorly, overly flirty, or just bad. This is also the one app where I’ve had guys send me nasty follow up messages if I don’t answer the originals. Ick! Stay away if you like quality!


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The League is a members only, elitist dating application. I was interested in trying this out because I am very picky and would be looking for someone who has their life together, is career ambitious, yadda yadda. They tout a higher standard of singles, which I’ll agree is the case. They put you on this waitlist for however long while they judge your quality (for me it was about five days; I’m a five day “meh”, apparently). Then, you get anywhere from 3 – 5 matches everyday at 5pm. Apparently, the algorithm is such that you may not show up in your matches’ batch the same day. This doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. In about a month of using this app, I had one match total that I chatted with, but he never pulled the trigger on asking for a date. The theory is good, but for all of the hullabaloo and pretension, I say DELETE. Also, this is one application that I have never redownloaded since deleting and likely will not again.


-9Happn application is based on proximity, meaning you need to activate your location. You are essentially given matches based on singles you’ve walked past or are nearby. It even tracks how many times you’ve been physically close to one another. Sounds a little creepy, but I hate matching with guys that were just in Chicago for the weekend. This way, you can tell if they are locals. I did find the quality better than other applications and actually did find success on here once. Otherwise, I didn’t really meet many people on here. If you’re comfortable with having your location activated, then I would recommend giving this one a try.


So there you have it folks! Let me know what your dating app experiences have been like. I, for one, have decided to do Grey Gardens Part II with my mom for the rest of my life. It may or may not be 100% a result of using dating apps.

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