Admittedly, I’ve been feeling a little down the last few days for no particular reason. This has manifested itself into a physical depression; lethargy, low energy, body aches. It has also given me a vague sense of foreboding and stagnation. I know it’s temporary and that this happens to many. The trouble is that when you don’t know the root cause, it can be difficult to treat it pragmatically or effectively. And that’s where the little things come in.
I want to mention the actions of my friends and family recently that has not only touched my heart, but has tangibly lifted my spirits. No one has split the lottery with me, bought me a car, introduced me to the love of my life. That’s more then okay. That me tell you what they have done.
My friend Andrea sent me a photo of her beautiful, smiling happy baby. My friend Kylie asked me to go see a movie on a Wednesday night even though she does a reverse commute. The sound of her open laughter during the film made me feel joyful. My friend Britt sent me a video of her first baby’s nursery in the works, full of fluffiness, safari animals, the voices of her excited family, and her dog, confused by the sound of the mobile. My mom sent me a text, “Hahahaha”, which means she actually thought something I said was funny and might have even laughed wherever she was.
These things took maybe a second or a few minutes at most, but what it told me was that they cared to take any portion of time out of their busy lives to do, say, or share something kind with me, without the expectation of something in return.
Additionally, when I’m blue, I find that doing the same kinds of things for others also helps me feel better. For example, the smile on the bartender’s face at Randolph Tavern (where I have lunch alone on Fridays sometimes) when I asked how her French bulldog was doing, made me feel good. So did telling my friend Emily how much I loved her throwback videos of her as a new mom. Same goes for my former college roommate/friend Sarah when she gave me a very sweet response after I left her a compliment on one of her Facebook pictures.
This is the beauty of friendship. The giving and receiving of kindness, no matter how big or small, is so impactful. It’s prevented me from collapsing into my own brooding and existentialist thoughts. It’s prevented me from feeling alone or unloved or unlucky. It’s prevented me from feeling powerless in my way of being or feeling, which truthfully, is sometimes depressed. So thank you to anyone and everyone that takes even a moment to step outside their own cloudy head or busy lives to reach out to someone else. It’s not easy to do, especially when you’re hurting or overwhelmed, but know that the difference it can make is truly astounding.
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